How to Tell If He Likes You or Thinks of You as Just Friends

Many times, women develop crushes or totally fall in love with their male best friends. Since it’s very possible that your friend adores you on some level, at the same time, he would probably be shocked to find out that you had feelings for him that went beyond those of friendship.

Therefore, it’s better to have an idea of how he really feels for you before professing your undying love for him. There are some simple ways to tell if you should keep quiet and find a real boyfriend or not.  Here are some examples:

• It’s funny to him every time his parents ask when the two of you are going to start dating for real.
• He asks you to be his “plus 1” date for a wedding because he can’t find a “real” date to go with him.
• He tends to come to you for relationship advice.
• If you go to see a movie together, he likes to keep an empty seat between you so that you’ll both have more space.
• He asks for your help in editing his profile for an online dating site.
• He calls you by your last name a lot, just like the buddy you are.
• When you wear a low cut top, he never even notices your cleavage.
• He introduces you as his best friend or his sister.
• He finds one of your girlfriends hot and asks you to set him up with her.
• His bathroom habits are an open book to you and he doesn’t try to hide anything from you.
• He’s constantly checking out other girls right in front of you.
• He makes sure that pictures of the two of you on social networking sites don’t lead to the impression that you’re together.
• He gets a brand new puppy and honors you by naming it after you.

As you can see, these are pretty obvious ways to tell that he’s not sharing your feelings of a romantic love and a chance of a real relationship. If you’re experiencing any or all of these signs with your guy friend, chances are you won’t be choosing a wedding dress anytime soon. In fact, it’s probably better if you just keep your feelings to yourself and maybe keep your distance from him for a while until you can get control of your feelings.

Now, if you’re looking at this list and thinking that those signs don’t mean anything, that he could still fall in love with you, certainly it can happen. But usually it doesn’t happen off of the big silver screen or one of those chick flick Lifetime movies.

However, if you’re so determined that you won’t know the true answer until you tell him how you feel, go for it. Just be prepared for him to be really uncomfortable and to feel kind of awful yourself. It’s truly better to kind of hint around at things in this situation rather than come fully clean and speaking from the heart. In that way, no one gets embarrassed and your friendship is still intact.

Is It Love? Or Lust?

Love or Lust?

When you get involved with someone it is often hard to tell in the beginning if you are infatuated with them or if you are in fact falling in love with them. One reason this is so difficult to discern is because many of the signs of love and infatuation are pretty close to the same. It is not until some time has passed that you can really tell the difference and by then it is often too late to do much about it.

When you first meet a person you may feel drawn to that person. This is often defined as being attracted to someone. The more you talk to this person the more drawn you feel making you want to spend more time with them. The more time you spend together the stronger this connection becomes. This is where you have to be careful because things can get kind of confusing at this point.

At this point you may find that you have trouble going to sleep at night or you are not really interested in eating much. For that matter very few things interest you if they do not involve the person that you have suddenly found yourself so attracted to. While this is technically referred to as being lovesick this does not necessarily mean that you are in love.

When you reach this stage you often find yourself jumping when the phone rings hoping it is your ‘other half’ and feeling huge disappointment when you discover that it isn’t. This is fairly normal in new relationships and doesn’t really give you a definitive answer either way on whether it is love or lust.

During this time you find yourself forever checking your appearance making sure everything is perfect when you know you are going to see this other person. When you are at this stage of a relationship you think everything about each other is perfect and the conversation never stops. You never get tired of spending time together and find that you just can’t seem to keep your hands to yourselves.

Even at this point it is often difficult to tell the difference between true love and lust. But after a couple of months the answers begin to become a little clearer. It is at this time that the ‘newness’ begins to wear off of the relationship. You begin to notice that you can tolerate being apart more than before. This does not necessarily mean that you are not in love but it does mean that the relationship is not as intense as it was in the beginning.

Now is when you will start to be able to tell the difference between love and lust. If your relationship has progressed to this point yet you still want to spend time with each other this is a good sign that it might be more than just a fleeting infatuation. The important thing is that you allow the relationship to get to this point before getting carried away to the point that you are already making wedding plans. Don’t rush it, and let the relationship flourish naturally before you make any long term commitments.

Do Opposites Really Attract?

When working with magnets you will quickly learn that polar opposites attract. This means that the negatively charged pole will be attracted to the positively charged pole and the two will connect together with very little user effort. The same rule applies in chemistry. Negatively charged particles will be attracted to positively charged particles. Why? Because the negatively charged particles have something that the positively charged particles want.

The same is true of people. Sometimes people who are very similar join together and live a happy existence; they enjoy the same music, have the same values and do the same activities on Friday nights. They have the same group of friends and attend the same church every Sunday morning.

Sometimes this is not the case and two people who are polar opposites are drawn together. Usually this is because one or the other of them has something that the other wants. A person who is generally very cynical and pessimistic may be drawn to someone with a sense of eternal optimism. An individual who has spent their whole life following the rules dictated by society for proper behavior may be drawn to a free spirit who is content to live their life the way that they see fit, regardless of the opinions of others.

Such matches at times may prove to be volatile, resulting in an explosion and the secondary damages that go along with it. Other times they may balance each other, as in the case of the positively and negatively charged electrons; the particles are neutralized when they are mixed together. These matches have long since stumped psychologists and others looking at these relationships from a purely subjective viewpoint. How can two people who have nothing in common form a strong, successful relationship? What they do not realize is that it is simply yet another example of nature’s own selection principles at work.

Dating and forming a relationship with someone who is your polar opposite is not always going to be easy, regardless of how well you complement each other. You are going to have different viewpoints on different issues and different lifestyles to boot. The most important factors in these types of relationships are patience and understanding. Remember that you knew they were very different from you when you chose to embark on this relationship; you cannot expect them to change now.

Before you choose to permanently commit to someone who is your opposite there are a few questions you are going to need to answer. What are their differences in the things that matter? (home, children, etc.) Can you be happy with these differences? If the answer to the second question is no it would be wise to take a step back from the relationship before committing to something that you cannot step back from. If, on the other hand, the answer is yes prepare to enjoy a lifetime that, while it will never be smooth, will certainly never be boring!

How to Be The Guy That Women Lust After

Women lust after guys for many different reasons, and there’s no way that any guy can make every woman lust after him. However, there are some things that you can do in order to make yourself attractive to as many women as possible. Many of these suggestions are simple to implement and yet once you perfect them, you’ll have many women lusting over you!

The first selection of suggestions is with regard to your appearance. Although most physical attributes are subjective, and different body shapes appeal to different women, there are some things that are universal. For example, women like their men to look clean and fresh. Turn up on a date with a five o’clock shadow, covered in ink and wearing a crumpled shirt and jeans, and you’re not likely to get a good response from your date. Turn up recently shaved, with the same clothes but with them freshly laundered and your date is going to have a better first impression of you.

Other physical things are a white dazzling smile and a decent haircut (although hair length and style again is a subjective area!). If you can get your eyes to twinkle – or even get that George Clooney eye-crinkle thing going on, you’re off to a great start!

Next comes the personality traits that most women love (or hate). A sense of humor is often at the top, or near the top of a list of “must have” attributes that women look for in a guy. This isn’t necessarily a “Simpson’s” or “South Park” sense of humor, but rather showing yourself to be a person that can laugh and who doesn’t take himself or life too seriously. Although she probably won’t appreciate you making a public spectacle of yourself (and her!) with outrageous behavior, if you can make a woman laugh, you hold her in the palm of your hand.

Other personality traits are listening to what she has to say, not monopolizing the conversation, not being too macho in your approach to who picks up the check, not appearing to be needy or high maintenance, and having an air of self-confidence that doesn’t border on arrogance. If you can manage to hold a conversation that doesn’t revolve around sports, then you’re going to score even higher on her lust scale!

Although the stereotypical woman lusts after a 6-pack abdomen and shoulders the size of Texas, this isn’t what the average woman is looking for. Although women do go for this kind of thing in certain situations, as with guys, this is usually a social thing rather than a personal choice in a partners.

To be a guy that women lust over, you don’t necessarily have to attend charm school and spend 3 hours in the gym everyday – just be attentive, quietly confident, relaxed, and sincere, but above all, be yourself. Nothing is more attractive than a man who is comfortable in his own skin!

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